Alternate Family ArrangementsPoly FamiliesPolyamory

Poly: A Needle Through the Eye of Monogamy’s Beliefs

      Last month, I tried to quit Grounded Parents, but my fellow writers and editors would have none of it. One of the reasons I was worried about my future here was how nervous Renee has been lately about the exposure that Grounded Parents gives to our family. When …

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BabiesPoly Families

Back In the Saddle (I Hope)

I’m still here. Barely. Some scruffy looking dude with a leather jacket should have told me that babies take a lot of time. Then, as I laughed and said, “Yeah, I’m sure they do,” turning back to the e-mail (in which I was writing to tell the editors of Grounded Parent that …

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BabiesPoly Families

The Ideology of Skepticism

Like those matching lab coats? They were a Christmas present. Tom is only eight months, but even when he was one month and barely able to smile, this was a Christmas present I was itching to get. I may have to wait a while before we can mess up the …

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Be Glad Your Housespouse Isn’t Union

About a month ago, Renee went back to work. I’ve taken on 20 hours a week of being the stay at home “dad” to Tom on top of most of my housekeeping duties. I really like my mornings with Tom. Even when he’s being completely inconsolable, filling diapers so quickly …

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I Delight in Your Pigeonholing Failure

I know that picture’s a little fuzzy, but Renee is wants me to tone down on the online exposure. There are places it’s safe to be non-monogamous and atheist, but not every person who might stop by Grounded Parents is going to be as awesome as its usual audience. But, …

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Maybe I’ll Just Shut Up

My family doesn’t talk about Tom to other parents much. Well, that’s not exactly true. We are all pretty much nuts about him and we talk about him as often as we can. My iPhone photos are the modern-day equivalent of the cascade of baby pictures that would come tumbling …

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Alternate Family ArrangementsPoly Families

To Co-parent or Not to Co-parent

On the best of days, being not officially Tom’s parent is a tangled thicket of boundaries, expectations, and my inability to resist unbridled cuteness. I vacillate between being a pushover and a bigger pushover. Sometimes I watch Tom for a few hours because my Tom meter is low, and sometimes I …

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Babies

ZOMG! Baby Smiles

So here’s the thing—I didn’t know infants don’t actually smile until they’re a monthish old. I’m on my first baby here—I didn’t even have siblings or cousins or anything—so I had no idea that they didn’t really smile for a few weeks. I also didn’t know how much it would …

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Enter the Househusband

One of the factors that complicates the fact that I am sort of a parent and sort of not is that I am the househusband to our family, and Tom’s arrival has changed a lot of the delicate equilibrium we worked so hard to achieve. It was like someone lobbed …

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Pregnancy & Childbirth

A n3wb in the Childbirth Controversy

I’m new to The Childbirth Controversy. Until about two weeks ago, the debate raged around me in dark corners of the internet, where angels fear to tread. I bought shwarmas, read Dresden novels, and rolled my eyes watching Supernatural, only vaguely aware that some people had very strong opinions about …

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