Ages 13-17 (Teen)BabiesFeminismIdentityLanguageParenting StylesUncategorized

No, My First Name Ain’t “Mama”

I consider myself a fairly open-minded person about any number of things. My kid comes out as pangender? No problem, as long as they’re happy and safe. Gay marriage? You love each other and want to be together in sickness and in health? Who am I to say you nay? …

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ActivismFeminismFertilityHealthPoliticsPregnancy & ChildbirthSex and Sexuality

How Planned Parenthood Saved My Life

I have been having sex (both consensual and non-consensual, and with some significant hiatuses) since I was 12 years old. I am now 45. In all that time, I have never had an unplanned pregnancy. I have never had an abortion. What I did have (and might still have) was …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)IdentityLGBTQSex and Sexuality

“I Was Your Daughter, But Now I’m Your Son.”

Life has been busy Chez Phoenix, hence the long hiatus between posts. You ever have so much going on that you can’t pick just one thing to write about? It’s been like that. The most important thing we’ve been dealing with recently is Hipster Tween’s (hereafter referred to as HT) …

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FeminismGrief and LossMarriageUncategorized

An Anchor ‘Round My Heart: Love, Loss, Moving On, Etc.

Today marks the end of what I like to call my Fortnight of Suck — a collection of dates that used to send me spiralling into a depressive abyss: 10/23: my stepfather’s birthday; 10/26: the date my divorce was final; somewhere in there is the date of my ex-husband’s second …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)FriendshipSex and SexualitySleepUncategorized

Boy/Girl sleepovers? What’s the big deal?

Hipster Tween is home from her father’s for a few days (she lives with me during the school year) and she’s been trying to set up a sleepover with one of her friends. C, who is a girl, is currently “5 hours north of Madison”. Hipster Tween, not to be …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)IdentityLanguagePoliticsRace, Ethnicity & Culture

The Radical Notion that Children are People

I have no beef with people who choose to be childfree. I mean, there are enough people in the world that having people willingly abstain from breeding is probably a better choice than creating more consumers for diminishing resources. I get it. I really do. When I was thinking about …

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