Alternate Family ArrangementsStep Families

It’s Not Just About Me

I am really, really bad at relationships. I don’t know why, and for the purposes of this article, it’s not especially important. I think maybe it’s because of the type of guys I’m attracted to, but maybe it’s partially my fault. I don’t know. The one good thing to come …

Ages 2-5Play

A Small Break from it All

Note: This is an essay I wrote 4 years ago, but I still think it’s important for me to remember.  Weekends. In my younger years, they were times for relaxation and fun. In college, they often lasted most of the week and involved gay bars, drag queens, a little too …



Awwww, Religious Right. You knew it was coming. How can you quote your silly book to death — damn the gays! damn the whores! damn the people who don’t get down with Jesus! — and then, when you’re faced with an actual crisis of Biblical proportion, ignore it? The one …

Ages 6-9

Explaining Death to Kids, Atheist-Style

The routine to get the 6-year old to bed is usually the same. He showers, gets his jammies on, and crawls into bed. His dad or I read to him while the kitten walks up and down the bed, purring, and then we hug him and kiss him, and close …

Pregnancy & Childbirth

Dammit! My kid could have been a Ph.D. by now!

Let me brag for a minute: I am the happy mom of a 6-year old boy. He’s reading at a 4th-grade level, does well in math, loves Science, and has a delightful sense of humor. I really couldn’t ask for much more in a kid. I’m very proud of him. …


Darth Vader Could TOTALLY Be a Ballerina!

My son is an only child, and the only child of two intellectual, semi-introverted people at that. His dad and I would rather read a book or study a website than go out and socialize with strangers. Our friends are largely childless, academic people, and we’re the weird ones who …


The Past is Real

My little guy doesn’t like me to keep my hair up in a ponytail. If he notices my hair in one, he’ll find a way to get to the back of my head – climb on a chair, ask me for a hug, something – and pull the ponytail tie …

Ages 2-5Family Field Trips

When I almost killed some kids at the Science center

A few years ago, I took my son to COSI for a day of fun. COSI is a science center in Columbus, and almost every Ohio person under the age of 35 can tell you all about their trip there when they were young. Most of the memories involve the tadpoles they …


Abuse isn’t Always on the Outside…

Trigger warning for mild domestic violence. I met him when I was lonely, and confused, and young and idealistic. I met him when I was still aching over the big, gaping hole in my gut that my college boyfriend had left. He was older than me and he had a …

Ages 2-5Sex and Sexuality

Cease and Desist! And Remove your Hand from her Ass!

I am not a touchy-feely person. If I were a real live serious blogger, I could go back and find past writings where I have stated this, and link you to them so you could go and read my explanation of the whole thing. I’m not, though, so you’ll just …