Ages 6-9Feminism

F*ck “Be a Lady” Tonight

The other day, when I arrived to pick up my daughter from summer camp, the Camp Director called me over with hushed tones. Her: I need to talk with you about K. She had trouble keeping her hands to herself today. Me: What happened? Her: She touched a boy in his …

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Humor

New U.S. Currency to Celebrate the Minimal Role Women Have Played in History

The U.S. Treasury announced Wednesday that in an attempt to compromise with advocates who were pressing to get a woman on the $20 bill, they will be releasing new currency. Rather than replacing Andrew Jackson with a less horrible human being on the $20 bill as advocates proposed, they will be releasing a …

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Feminism

Be a Man. Grow a Pair. Don’t Be a Girl.

You run like a girl. Grow a pair. Boys will be boys. Be a man. Don’t be a pussy. That’s so gay. The use of gendered language is so commonplace in our culture that almost everyone, even small children, share a common understanding of what these words and phrases mean when used as an insult …

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ActivismFeminism

Red Lipstick and Rape Culture

Trigger Warning: Content related to sexual violence, rape culture and misogyny Why are you wearing red lipstick, Steph? Let me tell you about it.   During the month of April, I participate in the Red My Lips campaign, a worldwide awareness campaign, which seeks to draw attention to sexual violence, …

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Ages 2-5Parenting Styles

My Favorite Child

Boy: Mama! I went POTTY! Me: (with the exuberance of a potty-training, exhausted mom, who was freaking thrilled at this development) Wow! That’s fantastic! Way to go! I am SO PROUD OF YOU! Girl: You love him more than me. Why aren’t you proud of me? *heart breaks* Me: Of course I’m proud …

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Feminism

Men have it hard, too.

Today, I had the privilege to engage in a discussion about male privilege with a man who was tired of being accused of mansplaining. Ironic, because the context of the conversation was pretty much the definition of mansplaining. My point – admitting that you are privileged or that male privilege …

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Ages 2-5Discipline

House Rules – to Love, Honor, and Disobey

My apologies to anyone who clicked on this link thinking that this was a post about your favorite grumpy doctor. I do think that he would appreciate my satire and demands for evidence, but, instead of an homage to sarcasm, I wanted to share the framework that my family has created for …

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FeminismHumor

Dear Future Partner

I could probably spend the rest of my writing career re-writing Meghan Trainor lyrics to be less problematic and sexist. I may never run out of material. It was bad enough when she thought it was a good idea for moms to teach their daughters that attracting a man should be their main …

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FeminismHumor

Top Five Reasons Why Dating a Feminist is Hard

Some nights when I am drinking from my mug of male tears and blogging about rape culture and abortion rights, I contemplate how hard it must be to date a feminist. Why even try? Is it worth it? Seems like a lot of work.        Top five reasons why dating …

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Humor

Being a Bitch Eating Crackers

Once you hate someone, everything they do is offensive. “Look at this bitch, eating those crackers like she owns the place.” If you spend time on social media or internet forums, you may have heard the phrase: “Bitch Eating Crackers” or BEC. Generally, it is invoked when someone is treating …

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