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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Discipline

Talking To Your Kids About The Police

More than once – and most recently during the fall-out from Adrian Peterson beating his four-year old bloody – I’ve heard some parents claim that they have to beat their kids, because (as they put it) either they beat their kids or the police do. The thesis here, as I …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 2-5Ages 6-9BabiesReviews

Giveaway: Redefining Girly

Close readers of my posts here on Grounded Parents know that I am a big fan of the work Melissa Atkins Wardy of Pigtail Pals Ballcap Buddies is doing. Several years ago I was struggling to find a voice for something that had been bothering me immensely as a parent …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Media & Technology

[TTT] Let’s Get Real(ity)

A few weeks ago, back when it was still summer, we were discussing the camp my son was taking that week – one of a series of “Soldiers and Diorama” camps in which the kids paint figures and build battle scenes and learn about military history. This particular week was …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Ages 6-9Education

Schooling Your Kid

After four years of home-schooling, we sent the kid back to public school this year. I wouldn’t say it’s been a smooth transition, but it’s been less fraught than it might have been.  She’s almost a month in and – as she puts it – not even a little bit dead …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Media & Technology

Techno-Techno-Tween-Tween – A Smartphone for an 11 Year Old

Part 1: Acquiring New Technology As I write this, days, maybe even weeks before I actually post, I’m thinking about my lunch plans for today. No biggie…just going to buy a smart phone for my 11-year-old. Even writing that makes me want to do the “ack make it stop” flappy hands. …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)DisciplineEducationParenting Styles

#SorryNotSorry — The End of The Forced Apology

I got an email the other day. My son’s teacher wanted to discuss my son’s strong emotional response that day in school. My first thought was — uh, could you please define strong emotional response? Did he burst into tears? Did he throw a table? Did he yell? Ah, the joy of …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)FriendshipSex and SexualitySleepUncategorized

Boy/Girl sleepovers? What’s the big deal?

Hipster Tween is home from her father’s for a few days (she lives with me during the school year) and she’s been trying to set up a sleepover with one of her friends. C, who is a girl, is currently “5 hours north of Madison”. Hipster Tween, not to be …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 6-9HouseholdParenting StylesWork

So What about Allowances? Or, Putting My Kid on Salary

Maybe your parents were like mine. When I was coming up, we didn’t get paid for work we did around the house. When I say work, I don’t mean we made our beds and maybe helped Mama dust.  I mean work. From the time I was eight, I was doing …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)IdentityLanguagePoliticsRace, Ethnicity & Culture

The Radical Notion that Children are People

I have no beef with people who choose to be childfree. I mean, there are enough people in the world that having people willingly abstain from breeding is probably a better choice than creating more consumers for diminishing resources. I get it. I really do. When I was thinking about …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Media & TechnologySex and Sexuality

Facebook Bikini Hullabaloo and Raising Kids Without Shame

Last month a blog entry titled “My husband Doesn’t need to see your Boobs” kept appearing in my news feed accompanied by conservative praise, and liberal mocking.  The writer was a conservative Christian woman who wanted other women to stop posting pictures of themselves in bikinis because it was ruining her marriage. Some …

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