Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 6-9HouseholdParenting StylesWork

So What about Allowances? Or, Putting My Kid on Salary

Maybe your parents were like mine. When I was coming up, we didn’t get paid for work we did around the house. When I say work, I don’t mean we made our beds and maybe helped Mama dust.  I mean work. From the time I was eight, I was doing …

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Ages 2-5Ages 6-9DisciplineUncategorized

Good Reasons to Hit Your Kid

So three or four years ago, my kid broke the screen on her iPad, for the second time. I was telling the story to my students before class started, kind of laughing about it, the way you do, because kids, am I right, when one of the students in the …

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ActivitiesAges 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Ages 2-5Ages 6-9Media & Technology

The 10 Best Children’s Movies You’ve Never Seen

The genre of children’s movies is one of extremes. On one hand you have the Disney headliner films, big budget productions, sanitized but well written, fantastically animated, with jokes for the guardians sprinkled throughout. On the other, you have the knock-offs, the sequels, and the thinly veiled religious moralizing that …

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X-Men Element Chess
Ages 2-5Ages 6-9Mixed Belief Families

Little Things

D waved me down. I stopped the lawnmower and walked over to my 7-year-old to see what was going on. To my surprise, he and his 5-year-old brother were in their pajamas. J was out for the evening, and I had to mow the lawn, so I left them in …

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Ages 2-5Ages 6-9Media & Technology

TTT: Scooby Doo or Scooby Don’t?

 Welcome to the first “real” edition of Third Thursday Television. To start us off, I want to look at one of those multivariate cephalopod-like properties that has everything necessary for a media/marketing juggernaut – nostalgia value for Gen-X parents, new series and movies for the kids, umpteen million products on …

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Hogwarts Express
Ages 6-9Media & Technology

Harry Potter and the Lessons of Consent

A few weeks ago, one of the other Grounded Parents writers posted an interesting article to the backchannel: 4 Ways Parents Teach Kids that Consent Doesn’t Matter. Paige Lucas-Stannard points out that there are some very basic and common ways that well-meaning parents teach children that consent doesn’t matter, including …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 6-9Identity

What Made Me (Not) Do It

TW: Suicidal ideation As  Bethany noted over the weekend, it is National Children’s Mental Health Awareness Week. In commemoration, let’s talk a little about children’s mental health. I’ll start. I was 9 the first time I thought about killing myself. Actually, I might have been 8 or even 7, but I …

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various fancy nancy titles
Ages 2-5Ages 6-9Family Field Trips

Books for independent, curious little girls

Our family reads a lot. Every night for the past five and a half years, Rose has had at least one, (sometimes five!) bedtime stories. There have been stories about bears, fairies, adventurers, dreams, zebras and pirates. And lots and lots of little girls: little girls doing ballet; little girls …

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Father and Son Bike
Ages 6-9Education

Knowing vs Teaching

I know how to ride a bike. I don’t mean to brag, but really, I know how to ride a bike. Although I’ve known how to ride a bike for years, I barely remember how my parents taught me how to ride. The only bit I remember is jumping on …

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Leonardo da Vinci (attrib) - The Holy Infants
Ages 6-9EducationSex and Sexuality

Revealing the Big Secret

The boys hadn’t really been asking about sex, but sometimes it would come up indirectly. For example, “sexy” is a banned word at D’s school, and during his kindergarten year, he asked me what it meant. “Ummm… It means you’re so good looking that someone wants to kiss you.” My …

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