HumanismStep Families

Our Contribution to The Future

I’ve had kids in my house for over 21 years, some my own, some stepchildren. All of them, worrying, fun, infuriating, wonderful in turns. Now, for the first time in two decades, I’m kidless. Our youngest have moved out and will be starting college in the fall. I have arrived …

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ActivitiesStep Families

This Unbelievably Simple Parenting Hack May Change Your Life

Last year I married an incredible partner. You can read more about him and our family here. We’ve spent the last year and a half blending our families together (which has been at times more like tossing a zany fruit salad into a house together and hoping that it tastes good). …

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HouseholdStep FamiliesWork

Part-Time Parenting

For the past five months, I’ve done a lot of travelling for business — I’m on the road just about every other week — and I expect that to continue into the foreseeable future. This wasn’t what my job was like previously…if I traveled at all, it was once or …

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Step Families

Taking Out the Trash: How I Managed to Date with Three Kids.

Children are easy but marriage is a total pain in the ass. Still. people still insist on getting married and some nutty people are even fighting for the right to marry. Go ahead, throw a big party, buy a ridiculous dress or just run away to Vegas, any way you …

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Alternate Family ArrangementsStep Families

It’s Not Just About Me

I am really, really bad at relationships. I don’t know why, and for the purposes of this article, it’s not especially important. I think maybe it’s because of the type of guys I’m attracted to, but maybe it’s partially my fault. I don’t know. The one good thing to come …

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Step Families

Tidbit Tuesdays: Evil Stepmother Edition

[Author’s note: J.G. Hovey has had to take a short hiatus from writing her Tidbit Tuesdays posts. I have taken advantage of the break to sneak one of my own in. Enjoy!] Ah, the Evil Stepmother. A trope so entrenched in so many cultures that it needs no explanation. Better …

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Step Families

I’ll Never Be “Mom”

I didn’t set out to be a stepmom. In fact, I had long held the opinion that I didn’t want children of my own–even though I love kids and absolutely adore my nieces. I had no ticking biological clock urging me on as I spent my 20s and 30s taking …

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Step Families

Dating a Single Dad

My relationship with my husband (I’ll call him C) has never only been about the two of us. It has also always been about his son, GT, and (to a certain extent) his ex-wife…or at least echos of his first marriage. From the moment we met, “divorced father” has been …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)EducationStep Families

Teaching Moments

My middle-school aged stepson came home with a new project recently. He had to give a presentation on a historical figure who had left an impact on the world. The list of notable individuals to choose from was long and varied, including kings and queens, world leaders, sports heroes, scientists, …

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Ages 6-9Parenting StylesStep Families

Between Authenticity and Acceptance

My stepson is a nerd. Through and through. He likes Yu-Gi-Oh and Doctor Who. He hates sports. He watches Youtube reviews of board games, and has watched his favorite episodes of TableTop and Co-Optitude so many times it’s driving his father and me crazy. In fact, he’s watching one right …

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