FeminismHumorSex and Sexuality

Internet Meme Demolition Derby: Girls are (NOT) Like Apples on Trees…

I usually let these memes stew on my desktop for a couple of days. Kind of letting them marinate while I decide what particular mixture of snark, cynicism, despair or disdain to add to the brew to make a perfect Internet Meme Demolition Derby Pie (mmmmmm Derby Pie…) But this …

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FeminismHumor

Top Five Reasons Why Dating a Feminist is Hard

Some nights when I am drinking from my mug of male tears and blogging about rape culture and abortion rights, I contemplate how hard it must be to date a feminist. Why even try? Is it worth it? Seems like a lot of work.        Top five reasons why dating …

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FeminismHouseholdMarriage

No really, what about the men?

Earlier this week, Fortune published a confessional think piece titled Female company president: “I’m sorry to all the mothers I worked with”. It is an interesting piece and one I can relate to from the other side of the desk as a woman and a mother. I will never know …

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ActivismFeminism

Foiling Fallacies – The Woman Who Cried Rape

Welcome back to Foiling Fallacies (FFS) – the series where I explore the examples that are brought up to derail debates when all hope of making one’s case is gone. These anecdotes represent such rare possibilities or exceptions to the rule that bringing them up is a logical fallacy and causes people like me to …

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FeminismSex and Sexuality

Dear America~size 12 is not plus sized, it’s average

I woke up this morning inundated with more media coverage of this “plus sized” model. Ugh. This isn’t even something I’d normally write or care about, but for reason, it’s really grinding my gears. Have you seen the new cover? Don’t get me wrong, she’s quite beautiful. Unfortunately I had …

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ActivismFeminism

Foiling Fallacies – Women Who Use Abortion As Birth Control

This is my first post in a new series called Foiling Fallacies (FFS for short – which is generally what I mutter when someone uses a fallacy in an internet debate). In the series I will explore the examples that are often brought up to derail internet debates when all hope of …

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FeminismIdentityPlay

The Casual Privilege of Conforming to Expectations

I first started thinking about conforming as a form of privilege when I was writing The Importance of Not Defining Normal for Other Children and realized how much easier it is, in many ways, to have a child who doesn’t push gender boundaries. In very specific circles, having kids who buck …

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FeminismPlay

Why I’m On the Fence About “No Gender December”.

Maybe it’s just my Facebook peeps, but for the past couple of days, I’ve been seeing a reasonably steady stream of info about “No Gender December“, an initiative by an Australian group called Play Unlimited. The stated goal is focused – rightly in my book – on gender-specific toy marketing and seems …

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DisciplineFeminismMedia & TechnologyParenting StylesPolitics

Not That Kind of Parent: The Problem With Lena Dunham

Trigger warning: Possible trigger for sexual abuse, consent, and childhood trauma.  ********************************************************** ********************************************************** ********************************************************** ********************************************************** It’s not news that Lena Dunham’s new memoir Not That Kind of Girl includes a rather bizarre story about seven year old Dunham examining her one year old sister’s genitals. The retelling of that story went viral and two camps …

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An Anchor ‘Round My Heart: Love, Loss, Moving On, Etc.

Today marks the end of what I like to call my Fortnight of Suck — a collection of dates that used to send me spiralling into a depressive abyss: 10/23: my stepfather’s birthday; 10/26: the date my divorce was final; somewhere in there is the date of my ex-husband’s second …

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