Grief and LossMental HealthScience

Televised Terror: What is the Effect on Children?

Welcome to “This Week in Parenting Research”, a bimonthly column where I try to find a study that may be of interest to parents. After the terrible tragedy in Orlando last week, I’ve been thinking a lot about how to explain random acts of violence or terrorism to my son. …

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Grief and Loss

Death – Part II

I’ve written before about helping children deal with death.  It’s a difficult thing to do, especially if you  haven’t developed ways of deal with death yourself. A couple of weeks ago we had to put down Bailey, our Aussie Shepard.  He was almost 15 years old and we had him …

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Grief and LossPolitics

Dead Babies: What Lengths, For What Purpose?

“Originally I was just doing it to bring people’s awareness to what babies look like that young, and with the abortions and everything that’s going on with Planned Parenthood it’s just made me so upset,” said Ellis. I came across a disturbing article that tries to link a miscarriage to …

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EducationGrief and Loss

Trigger Warnings Will Destroy Us ALL! (or not)

Trigger Warning: infant death, graphic description of fetal tissue There is this man who stands a block from the entrance to my workplace. He props up two four-foot signs emblazoned with photographs of bloody, dead, micro-preemie babies, and another with the words “Stop Abortion Now!” I say “babies” despite knowing that these are fetuses, despite knowing …

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Grief and Loss

His Eyes

There’s that familiar phrase when people study a child’s face. “Oh look. He has his father’s eyes.” It’s the proud marker of relationship, the expression of lineage, of continuity between the generations. “She looks just like her mother, but she has her father’s eyes.” Harry Potter looked like his father, …

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Ages 2-5Ages 6-9Grief and LossLaw

Guns Don’t Kill People, Toddlers Kill People

I feel sick, sitting down to write this.   It’s been over two weeks since Veronica Rutledge, Nuclear Research Scientist at the Idaho National Laboratory, was shot in the head by her two-year-old son at a Walmart in Hayden, Idaho. I’ve waited until now to write this out of deference to …

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BooksGrief and Loss

Lifetimes: Explaining Death to Children

It’s the holiday season, when we’re meant to be full to the brim with peace and joy and eggnog and cookies, and our houses are meant to be full to bursting with loved ones. All well and good, unless you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, in which case …

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FeminismGrief and LossMarriageUncategorized

An Anchor ‘Round My Heart: Love, Loss, Moving On, Etc.

Today marks the end of what I like to call my Fortnight of Suck — a collection of dates that used to send me spiralling into a depressive abyss: 10/23: my stepfather’s birthday; 10/26: the date my divorce was final; somewhere in there is the date of my ex-husband’s second …

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Grief and LossMarriage

Cognitive Dissonance

Trigger Warning: This post includes descriptions of violence, which may be triggering or alarming. Please take care of yourself.       When my husband hurt me, it was like watching a stranger kill the man I loved in front of me and then try to kill me. I was so scared and confused. …

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Grief and Loss

Preparing For Death

My children’s mother is dying.  Well, not officially.  She doesn’t have a terminal disease that they know of.  What she does have, and what seems to be the root cause of everything wrong, is uncontrolled diabetes. We were married for over 18 years.  She had health issues from the time …

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