IdentityLGBTQ

What to Expect When Your Child is Trans*

Just in case it is not obvious, the post title is a spoof on What to Expect When You’re Expecting. Despite the title and the tone, I have absolutely no idea what you will encounter. This is a rant about my own experiences. If the events and confusions in my …

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LGBTQMedia & TechnologySex & Gender

Internet Meme Demolition Derby: The Scourge of the Man Bun

Hello there! I hope everyone in the Northern Hemisphere had a happy Summer vacation. Summer is still kind of full time work for this stay at home parent, which is why the Derby has been quiet for a few months. But the kids are back in school so lets sweep …

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LGBTQSex & Gender

Transgender Questions (2): physical transitions – getting the personal questions out of the way

In the first installment of this series, I mentioned my basic approach to and motivations for writing these posts. Just as a reminder, though, this series is intended for general, non-trans* readers, although I absolutely welcome readers who know more than I do on the topic, and hope that you …

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LGBTQSex & Gender

Transgender Questions (1): terminology and basics

I’d like to preface this new series by acknowledging that it is intended for general, non-trans* readers (although I absolutely welcome readers who know more than I do on the topic, and hope that you will feel free to give me feedback, corrections and suggestions!) I am not trans*. My …

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HumorLGBTQ

Internet Meme Demolition Derby: The Bathroom Wars Part Two, The NOT HELPING Edition

(CN: Anti-Trans bigotry and some generally clueless allyship) Welcome back to the Bathroom Wars. If you read the first edition in this series (click here,) then you’ll be up to date. North Carolina started this brouhaha about who should get to pee where at the end of March, leading to …

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IdentityLawLGBTQ

Potty Politics: Four things bathroom bill proponents get wrong

CN: Transphobia At the risk of making this the Grounded Bathrooms page for a little while here, I would like to take this opportunity to thank Target for doubling down on its corporate policy of inclusiveness by announcing that its customers are free to use whatever restroom and dressing room …

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LawLGBTQSex and Sexuality

Bathroom Bonanza

(Consider this my minor contribution to Lou’s excellent post on The Bathroom Wars.) I’m an engineer. In general, that means I tend to break a big problem into its components, analyze each one, work out contingencies, then work back up the chain to resolve the bigger issue. So let’s consider …

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LGBTQMedia & TechnologyUncategorized

Internet Meme Demolition Derby: The Restroom Wars Part One…

(CN: Anti-Trans bigotry and threats of violence and just general horrible people being horrible, proceed with caution) According to prominent experts, Everyone Poops. They also pee. Or need to adjust their makeup, or change a tampon or maxi pad, or wash their hands or change a diaper on a screaming baby …

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IdentityLGBTQ

Dissipating Ghosts and Having a Transgender Child

Have you ever had the experience of walking into a dim room and seeing something that doesn’t make sense at first, a shadow, a light, a movement? Maybe there’s even an odd sound, or a deeper silence than seems usual. And in that split second between unconsciously noticing that something …

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ActivismLGBTQ

The Gay Agenda* #3: Those Pesky Pronouns

When I was a wee, impressionable child, the BBC and Time-Life Films released the documentary series The Ascent of Man. I became hooked on all things prehistory and travel themed. I read Peter Mathiessen’s The Tree Where Man Was Born. I worked my way through Richard Leakey’s Origins, which won …

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