Media & TechnologySex and Sexuality

Oh My Gosh, Look at Her Butt, Bass, Rape Culture, Macaw!

The other day I was mindlessly listening to the radio and heard my 23-month-old son singing along in the back seat. Awww cute. Wait a minute. What song is this? Anaconda. What did my sweet boy just say? I quickly changed the radio station when I realized that my son had sung the words …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)FriendshipSex and SexualitySleepUncategorized

Boy/Girl sleepovers? What’s the big deal?

Hipster Tween is home from her father’s for a few days (she lives with me during the school year) and she’s been trying to set up a sleepover with one of her friends. C, who is a girl, is currently “5 hours north of Madison”. Hipster Tween, not to be …

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Sex and SexualityUncategorized

No such thing as safe sex?

One of the joys of being part of a blogging network is that you get exposed to articles and such that you’d never have come across in your own sphere. Sometimes they’re enlightening, worldview-expanding, and perspective-altering. Sometimes they’re just tripe. This article by Matt Walsh, on why he’s not going …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Media & TechnologySex and Sexuality

Facebook Bikini Hullabaloo and Raising Kids Without Shame

Last month a blog entry titled “My husband Doesn’t need to see your Boobs” kept appearing in my news feed accompanied by conservative praise, and liberal mocking.  The writer was a conservative Christian woman who wanted other women to stop posting pictures of themselves in bikinis because it was ruining her marriage. Some …

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Ages 13-17 (Teen)Sex and Sexuality

The Dating Game: Another look at all of these rules.

Lou has been doing such an awesome job taking down those silly “rules for dating my [insert gendered child-type here]” in the Internet Meme Demolition Derby- go read them if you haven’t yet, because you may want context. And one of the things that’s come up in comments is well …

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Ages 13-17 (Teen)Parenting FailsSex and Sexuality

Internet Meme Demolition Derby: New Rules for Dating my Daughter

The very first Internet Meme Demolition Derby featured the image to our right. Rules for Dating My Daughter was roaming across Facebook and Twitter, revealing the inner Neanderthal Conservative on your friends list and getting “Hurr Hurr Hurr, so true…” laughs from the usual chuckleheads whose comedic tastes stopped evolving …

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Sex and Sexuality

Ask a Sex Educator: What to do about young children’s self-touching?

Welcome to our new feature, Ask a Sex Educator! While I will continue to write standalone articles from time to time, I wanted to create a forum where people could ask parenting and sexuality-related questions, and I’ll answer as many of them as I’m able. Besides my own training and …

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HealthSex and Sexuality

There’s a Time and Place for Fetus Jokes

I have spent nearly 20 years of my life in the reproductive rights movement, working to help ensure that women and teens have unrestricted access to abortion care. I spent years of my career raising money for a large women’s health care provider. I have escorted at clinics, putting myself between women …

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Leonardo da Vinci (attrib) - The Holy Infants
Ages 6-9EducationSex and Sexuality

Revealing the Big Secret

The boys hadn’t really been asking about sex, but sometimes it would come up indirectly. For example, “sexy” is a banned word at D’s school, and during his kindergarten year, he asked me what it meant. “Ummm… It means you’re so good looking that someone wants to kiss you.” My …

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FertilitySex and SexualityTraditions & Celebrations

March Madness… the season to get snipped? Or… “How I survived my vasectomy and watched way too much basketball.”

It is the first weekend of Spring, a time when a young man’s fancy turns to matters of love. Or so the case may be in other parts of the world. In the good old USA the first weekend of Spring heralds a different obsession, March Madness, the NCAA Men’s …

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