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How I Became a Reasonable Mom

Next week in Washington, DC, I’m taking part in a panel discussion on what it means to be a reasonable mom. But I didn’t exactly begin my “mom life” as anything resembling reasonable. There was a long period of time when I believed a good birth had to be a drug-free …

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Pregnancy & ChildbirthPseudoscience

Please Don’t Eat Your Placenta

I am guessing you clicked on this post for one of two reasons. You are so grossed out by the thought of eating your own or anyone else’s placenta that you wanted to read more out of morbid curiosity. You want to skip to the end and tell me that …

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ActivismBabiesPregnancy & Childbirth

I Don’t Need Your Birth Feminism

Mariah Sixkiller’s Why I Am a Birth Feminist is one of the most privileged and myopic pieces of drivel I have ever read. Why exactly is she a birth feminist? Is it because she wants to see improved birth outcomes for women in third world countries? No. Is it because she wants to fight …

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Mother and newborn
BabiesPregnancy & Childbirth

Nineties Song “Closing Time” Isn’t About the End of a Night Out

Readers, please join me as I take a break from my science advocacy writing and reminisce. Four years ago around this time, I was large, uncomfortable, and more than ready to evict my first child from my fatigued body. Fast forward to the end of January, and with an audible …

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#notburiedtwice
ActivismPregnancy & Childbirth

Not Buried Twice: Why the Fight for Birth Safety Matters

The backlash to the so-called “Mommy Wars” has been, in some ways, as misguided as the “wars” themselves. There’s a mentality that anything a parent (but usually a mother) does is just as valid, right, or safe as the alternative. While that holds true for some things, like breastfeeding vs. …

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FeminismPoliticsPregnancy & Childbirth

#YesAllWomen. Thankfully #NotAllBabies.

I’m a Dr. Amy fan. I value the attention she’s brought to the dangers of homebirth. I’m a pretty strong homebirth opponent too — all I can see is increased risk with no benefit — and I agree with the part of her recent blog post that brings to light …

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BabiesHealthPregnancy & Childbirth

The NICU Part 2: Ridiculously Long List of Ways to Help a NICU Parent

Note: this is part two in an ongoing series about life as a long-term NICU parent. Find part 1 here. Before we had kids, our friends’ daughter was in the NICU for heart surgery. They were almost 5,000 miles away and nothing seemed helpful to send, so we did absolutely …

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Alternate Family Arrangements

Interview with a Surrogate

I’ve never been pregnant my own self, but dammit I want to tell baby stories and I’m not too good to steal other people’s. I’m starting with my perfectly fertile friend Stacie, who agreed to share the story of her surrogate pregnancy. Turns out I’m really shitty at interviews and …

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BabiesHealthPregnancy & ChildbirthSpecial Needs

The NICU, Part 1: Happily Ever After. . .Almost

(Trigger Warning: infant loss, NICU trauma) A year ago today, our happy ending began. After 122 days in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, my son came home, joining his brother who had arrived 10 days previously.  Born at just under 1 ½ lbs each, the twins weighed 5 lbs when …

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Pregnancy & Childbirth

Dammit! My kid could have been a Ph.D. by now!

Let me brag for a minute: I am the happy mom of a 6-year old boy. He’s reading at a 4th-grade level, does well in math, loves Science, and has a delightful sense of humor. I really couldn’t ask for much more in a kid. I’m very proud of him. …

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