Ages 10-12 (Tween)DisciplineEducationParenting Styles

#SorryNotSorry — The End of The Forced Apology

I got an email the other day. My son’s teacher wanted to discuss my son’s strong emotional response that day in school. My first thought was — uh, could you please define strong emotional response? Did he burst into tears? Did he throw a table? Did he yell? Ah, the joy of …

Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 6-9HouseholdParenting StylesWork

So What about Allowances? Or, Putting My Kid on Salary

Maybe your parents were like mine. When I was coming up, we didn’t get paid for work we did around the house. When I say work, I don’t mean we made our beds and maybe helped Mama dust.  I mean work. From the time I was eight, I was doing …

Parenting FailsParenting Styles

Parenting Without A Tribe

I wanted to write a post titled In Defense of Helicopter Parenting but then I realized that I’m actually not much of a helicopter parent. I only hover when safety is a concern, and my goal is to avoid homework supervisory duties as much as possible. Still, I wanted to …

Guest Post

Guest Post: Good Parenting and the Question of Unconditional Love

Editor’s note:  In this guest post Cassandra Phoenix writes about breaking the cycle of abuse, parental self-doubt, and unconditional love. One of my friends brought up a disturbing notion on Facebook recently: “Something that’s been worrying me the past few years is possibly becoming the parent of a child who …

Ages 2-5BabiesFriendshipHumorPlay

The Trials and Joys of Being a Furry Big Sis

            While I don’t necessarily consider myself a dog’s mom, our trusty Luna thinks of herself as the biggest sister. Since I’ve been writing serious and contentious posts lately, she advised that we write something more upbeat for a change. So without further ado, I’ll …

HumorIdentityParenting Styles

9 Things I Wish I’d Known About Raising a Child

1. Internet lists are a whole bunch of bs. Yes, even this one (well, really it’s more snark, but wev). We’ve all seen those [Random Number] Things I Wish I’d Known About Raising a Girl/Boy/Girl lists, right? Guess what. Bullshit. I can honestly say that I’ve experienced all 19 of …

Alternate Family ArrangementsPoly Families

To Co-parent or Not to Co-parent

On the best of days, being not officially Tom’s parent is a tangled thicket of boundaries, expectations, and my inability to resist unbridled cuteness. I vacillate between being a pushover and a bigger pushover. Sometimes I watch Tom for a few hours because my Tom meter is low, and sometimes I …

BabiesParenting StylesPregnancy & Childbirth

Crunchy People Aren’t Always Crunchy

“Hi, I’m Johnna and I breastfed my child for 26 months. Now, where’s my medal?” I’ve never said this.   I usually only tell people when asked about it.   I don’t really think about it all that much until people have a discussion about breastfeeding or formula feeding.   For some reason …

EducationParenting Styles

Breaking The Rules

  One day last week I took my kid to a local park, which has trails down through the woods to the Arkansas River.  This was the first sunny day out in a string of icy, grey days, though still very cold.  We took the trail we always take, but …


Bad News for Critical Thinkers

The headline in my newsfeed blared: Bad news for dads: Babies ‘should share mother’s bed until age three’ because  it’s good for their hearts Now, it turns out, in true click-bait headline OMG MUST SHARE THIS fashion, this piece is from 2011, so it’s totally possible that the underlying research …