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When Mommy Bloggers Divorce

One of my guilty pleasures is the website known as GOMI or Get Off My Internets — known for its never-ending supply of snark about bloggers and the internet famous. What can I say — I can only spend so much of my free time looking at pictures of horrific dips on Pinterest. Confession: I …

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An Anchor ‘Round My Heart: Love, Loss, Moving On, Etc.

Today marks the end of what I like to call my Fortnight of Suck — a collection of dates that used to send me spiralling into a depressive abyss: 10/23: my stepfather’s birthday; 10/26: the date my divorce was final; somewhere in there is the date of my ex-husband’s second …

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Grief and LossMarriage

Cognitive Dissonance

Trigger Warning: This post includes descriptions of violence, which may be triggering or alarming. Please take care of yourself.       When my husband hurt me, it was like watching a stranger kill the man I loved in front of me and then try to kill me. I was so scared and confused. …

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Step Families

Taking Out the Trash: How I Managed to Date with Three Kids.

Children are easy but marriage is a total pain in the ass. Still. people still insist on getting married and some nutty people are even fighting for the right to marry. Go ahead, throw a big party, buy a ridiculous dress or just run away to Vegas, any way you …

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Parenting Styles

Parenting While Divorced

Divorce is traumatic. Next to death and illness, divorce is probably one of the the worst things anyone can experience.  This is not because it is something rare, far from it.  I is because it is something that, despite the almost 50/50 odds, none of us think it will happen …

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Traditions & Celebrations

I Choose You

This will be my first Mother’s Day as a single parent. It is bittersweet. I would joke and say that the only thing that will be different this year is that I won’t have a husband to half-ass a last-minute grocery store gift on behalf of my young children. Which, …

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Parenting Styles

Parenting Alone

I separated from my first wife in 2005.  The kids were staying with me because she was staying with her boyfriend.  When she threatened to take the kids back to Massachusetts, I contacted my lawyer and the next day had a court order for temporary custody. In the final divorce …

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Step Families

Dating a Single Dad

My relationship with my husband (I’ll call him C) has never only been about the two of us. It has also always been about his son, GT, and (to a certain extent) his ex-wife…or at least echos of his first marriage. From the moment we met, “divorced father” has been …

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Parenting Styles

Being A Single Parent

I became a single parent when my son was 11 and my daughter was 7. My kids still saw their mom a lot, but they lived with me and I was tasked with figuring out how the hell I was going to raise them, help them through the divorce, while …

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