ActivismMedia & Technology

Trigger Warnings, Privilege and Making the World a Kinder Place

Trigger Warning: This post contains content related to domestic and sexual violence.           If you spend a lot of time on parenting forums or Facebook groups on the internet, you have probably seen and/or used a trigger warning. Olivia recently provided a great refresher on the subject …

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FeminismIdentityPlay

The Casual Privilege of Conforming to Expectations

I first started thinking about conforming as a form of privilege when I was writing The Importance of Not Defining Normal for Other Children and realized how much easier it is, in many ways, to have a child who doesn’t push gender boundaries. In very specific circles, having kids who buck …

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Girl in superhero outfit with text: Stereotypes limit thinking; No Gender November - Stereotypes have no place under my christmas tree"
FeminismPlay

Why I’m On the Fence About “No Gender December”.

Maybe it’s just my Facebook peeps, but for the past couple of days, I’ve been seeing a reasonably steady stream of info about “No Gender December“, an initiative by an Australian group called Play Unlimited. The stated goal is focused – rightly in my book – on gender-specific toy marketing and seems …

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Lena Dunham
DisciplineFeminismMedia & TechnologyParenting StylesPolitics

Not That Kind of Parent: The Problem With Lena Dunham

Trigger warning: Possible trigger for sexual abuse, consent, and childhood trauma.  ********************************************************** ********************************************************** ********************************************************** ********************************************************** It’s not news that Lena Dunham’s new memoir Not That Kind of Girl includes a rather bizarre story about seven year old Dunham examining her one year old sister’s genitals. The retelling of that story went viral and two camps …

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FeminismGrief and LossMarriageUncategorized

An Anchor ‘Round My Heart: Love, Loss, Moving On, Etc.

Today marks the end of what I like to call my Fortnight of Suck — a collection of dates that used to send me spiralling into a depressive abyss: 10/23: my stepfather’s birthday; 10/26: the date my divorce was final; somewhere in there is the date of my ex-husband’s second …

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Grief and LossMarriage

Cognitive Dissonance

Trigger Warning: This post includes descriptions of violence, which may be triggering or alarming. Please take care of yourself.       When my husband hurt me, it was like watching a stranger kill the man I loved in front of me and then try to kill me. I was so scared and confused. …

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Activism

F*ck Hate, Misogyny, Racism and Cause Marketing

NSFW. I have a confession. I love the new FCKH8 video. The one that features little girls dressed as princesses dropping F-bombs, while they cite statistics about rape, misogyny and sexism. I have no problem with little girls talking about these issues or saying fuck while they do it, because seriously, fuck …

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raw eggs in bowl with whisk
FoodHouseholdMedia & Technology

The Audacity of a Mother Who Hates Making Dinner

Mother and writer Virginia Heffernan recently dared to ask the question What If You just Hate Making Dinner? Nostalgic for pizza delivery and frozen dinners, Heffernan finds “mother cookbooks” like 100 Days of Real Food, The Family Cooks, and Dinner: A Love Story (at best) discouraging and (at worst) condescending. She’s blunt about …

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Scott Walker at podium
FeminismHealthPolitics

Damn it, Planned Parenthood. Don’t Use Sexism to Convince Me to Oust Scott Walker

Update from author at 2 pm Oct 23rd, 2014: Planned Parenthood of Wisconsin reached out to me early this afternoon. I had an informative and cordial conversation with the VP of Development and Communication. She and their team appreciate my input and are planning to post a revised version of …

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ActivismFeminismPoliticsWork

Home Sick

At writing this, Pickle is tucked soundly in bed with his lovey clutched tightly to his chest. It is 30 minutes into a school day, he’s home sick and I am lucky enough to be home with him. We have a lot of advantages that most families don’t have. I …

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