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From Toys to Toilets

As reported here over the weekend, Target has announced that it will remove signage and other culturally enforced color designations in its stores over the next several weeks, presumably in time for a holiday shopping season that will see Lego Friends and Elves moved to the building set aisle where …

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The Perennial Problem of Gendered Dress Codes

Recently I was chatting about dress codes with a friend whose husband is a high school principal. They were lamenting that he had been caught in the crossfire between (a) being required to write a dress code and (b) resentment that the resulting dress code treats male and female gendered …

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Feminism

Be a Man. Grow a Pair. Don’t Be a Girl.

You run like a girl. Grow a pair. Boys will be boys. Be a man. Don’t be a pussy. That’s so gay. The use of gendered language is so commonplace in our culture that almost everyone, even small children, share a common understanding of what these words and phrases mean when used as an insult …

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Is Your Kid’s Favorite Superhero Sexist?

I spent most of Thursday (when I wasn’t working, of course) flipping back and forth between two breaking comic-related stories. The first was actually really exciting (to me) news that DC is working on a new superhero concept featuring and aimed at girl comic fans. My first reaction was something pretty …

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Feminism

Men have it hard, too.

Today, I had the privilege to engage in a discussion about male privilege with a man who was tired of being accused of mansplaining. Ironic, because the context of the conversation was pretty much the definition of mansplaining. My point – admitting that you are privileged or that male privilege …

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The Gay Agenda* #1: Advice for friends – knowing what you are saying

My child identifies as gay and genderqueer. I happen to think that xe* is a pretty awesome person who ought to be treated as a full human being, and that choices in apparel, hairstyle, and personal partners are irrelevant to that reality. Apparently this qualifies me as support staff for …

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The Casual Privilege of Conforming to Expectations

I first started thinking about conforming as a form of privilege when I was writing The Importance of Not Defining Normal for Other Children and realized how much easier it is, in many ways, to have a child who doesn’t push gender boundaries. In very specific circles, having kids who buck …

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Why I’m On the Fence About “No Gender December”.

Maybe it’s just my Facebook peeps, but for the past couple of days, I’ve been seeing a reasonably steady stream of info about “No Gender December“, an initiative by an Australian group called Play Unlimited. The stated goal is focused – rightly in my book – on gender-specific toy marketing and seems …

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Oh My Gosh, Look at Her Butt, Bass, Rape Culture, Macaw!

The other day I was mindlessly listening to the radio and heard my 23-month-old son singing along in the back seat. Awww cute. Wait a minute. What song is this? Anaconda. What did my sweet boy just say? I quickly changed the radio station when I realized that my son had sung the words …

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Giveaway: Redefining Girly

Close readers of my posts here on Grounded Parents know that I am a big fan of the work Melissa Atkins Wardy of Pigtail Pals Ballcap Buddies is doing. Several years ago I was struggling to find a voice for something that had been bothering me immensely as a parent …

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