Let’s Stop Making Dads Look Incompetent and Moms Look Like Nags

A recent blog post – Let’s Stop Making Dads Look Dumb – is making the rounds. At first glance it looks like it is about tearing down gender role stereotypes. The media and American culture simultaneously perpetuate the ideas that men are bumbling idiots (see virtually any episode of Everybody Loves …

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Happy Anniversary to My Husband, From Your Not-A-Supermom Wife

They say that behind every superparent is at least one other superparent or other super-supportive person. Wait, they don’t say that? Well, they should.


Weekend Reads: Don’t Spank Your Kids, Quiet Revolution, and #Give Elsa a Girlfriend

Happy Mayday everybody! It’s International Workers’ Day, basically labor Day for the rest of the world. So go out and unite, I’m told you have nothing to lose? People have been spanking children forever and parents still think it works. 50 years of scientific research says they are wrong.  The …

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No really, what about the men?

Earlier this week, Fortune published a confessional think piece titled Female company president: “I’m sorry to all the mothers I worked with”. It is an interesting piece and one I can relate to from the other side of the desk as a woman and a mother. I will never know …

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When Mommy Bloggers Divorce

One of my guilty pleasures is the website known as GOMI or Get Off My Internets — known for its never-ending supply of snark about bloggers and the internet famous. What can I say — I can only spend so much of my free time looking at pictures of horrific dips on Pinterest. Confession: I …

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An Anchor ‘Round My Heart: Love, Loss, Moving On, Etc.

Today marks the end of what I like to call my Fortnight of Suck — a collection of dates that used to send me spiralling into a depressive abyss: 10/23: my stepfather’s birthday; 10/26: the date my divorce was final; somewhere in there is the date of my ex-husband’s second …

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Cognitive Dissonance

Trigger Warning: This post includes descriptions of violence, which may be triggering or alarming. Please take care of yourself.       When my husband hurt me, it was like watching a stranger kill the man I loved in front of me and then try to kill me. I was so scared and confused. …

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If my child falls in love with yours…

I will not be praying for you. I will not be praying for your child. Or your family. Or to your God, should you have one. Because I do not pray. I do not believe in (your) God. Or any gods. But that’s okay. Well, I certainly hope it’s okay. …

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I’ll Never Be “Mom”

I didn’t set out to be a stepmom. In fact, I had long held the opinion that I didn’t want children of my own–even though I love kids and absolutely adore my nieces. I had no ticking biological clock urging me on as I spent my 20s and 30s taking …


So I Married a Gun Nut

I distinctly remember our first date. I had a few disclaimers to get out-of-the-way. Me: There are a few things you should know about me. I am a Pro-choice Feminist, a Socialist and not Christian. Also, I am a vegetarian. I just don’t want to waste your time if any …