Alternate Family ArrangementsPoly Families

Why Mommy Has a Boyfriend

First, let me say that I don’t really think of Sweetie as my “boyfriend,” I consider him my partner. (He is part of my chosen family. Sweetie, Hubby and I make decisions as a family) Second, this is not an argument for polyamory or any other type of open relationship; …

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Be Glad Your Housespouse Isn’t Union

About a month ago, Renee went back to work. I’ve taken on 20 hours a week of being the stay at home “dad” to Tom on top of most of my housekeeping duties. I really like my mornings with Tom. Even when he’s being completely inconsolable, filling diapers so quickly …

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To Co-parent or Not to Co-parent

On the best of days, being not officially Tom’s parent is a tangled thicket of boundaries, expectations, and my inability to resist unbridled cuteness. I vacillate between being a pushover and a bigger pushover. Sometimes I watch Tom for a few hours because my Tom meter is low, and sometimes I …

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Enter the Househusband

One of the factors that complicates the fact that I am sort of a parent and sort of not is that I am the househusband to our family, and Tom’s arrival has changed a lot of the delicate equilibrium we worked so hard to achieve. It was like someone lobbed …

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Counterpoint: We can’t pretend polygamy isn’t a gender issue

We’ve seen a lot of successes for the campaign for equal marriage recently.  In the UK, the first same-sex marriages will be performed on 29th March 2014, while 17 US states now grant equal marriage rights to same-sex couples. Although there’s a long way still to go, public opinion is …

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I Am Not a Parent

I am not a parent. In a way it would be appropriate to say that I am not a parent YET. As of this writing (at least its first draft), I’m sitting in a hospital lobby, next to our dozing doula, clacking away on my laptop. Willpower, worry, five hour …

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