IdentityLGBTQ

Dissipating Ghosts and Having a Transgender Child

Have you ever had the experience of walking into a dim room and seeing something that doesn’t make sense at first, a shadow, a light, a movement? Maybe there’s even an odd sound, or a deeper silence than seems usual. And in that split second between unconsciously noticing that something …

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HealthSex and Sexuality

We Must Protect the Children!!!

Several months ago, our school district began the long process to review, update and revise its human growth and development curriculum – which hadn’t been done since the 1980s. Not that anything has changed since then *sarcasm.* Actually, quite a bit has changed, namely, we know a lot about what works (comprehensive sexuality …

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ActivismFeminismFertilityHealthPoliticsPregnancy & ChildbirthSex and Sexuality

How Planned Parenthood Saved My Life

I have been having sex (both consensual and non-consensual, and with some significant hiatuses) since I was 12 years old. I am now 45. In all that time, I have never had an unplanned pregnancy. I have never had an abortion. What I did have (and might still have) was …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)LawParenting StylesSex and Sexuality

Is it Legal for Kids to Have Sex When They are Home Alone?

{Content Warning – Discussion of statutory rape laws, including some specific language regarding youth sexual conduct.} Serious question. In light of the ongoing fracas regarding kids exploring the world without supervision, it occurred to me – with a wide range of ages when kids are deemed capable of being home …

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FeminismHumor

Top Five Reasons Why Dating a Feminist is Hard

Some nights when I am drinking from my mug of male tears and blogging about rape culture and abortion rights, I contemplate how hard it must be to date a feminist. Why even try? Is it worth it? Seems like a lot of work.        Top five reasons why dating …

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Sex and SexualityUncategorized

Why your teen shouldn’t be afraid of STIs

Scare tactics are one of the staples of teen health and safety education initiatives. Driver’s ed classes with photos of gruesome car wrecks; drug and alcohol abuse programs filled with grim stories about arrests and deaths; and my personal favorite, sex ed programs with slide after slide of genitals covered …

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Media & TechnologySex and Sexuality

Oh My Gosh, Look at Her Butt, Bass, Rape Culture, Macaw!

The other day I was mindlessly listening to the radio and heard my 23-month-old son singing along in the back seat. Awww cute. Wait a minute. What song is this? Anaconda. What did my sweet boy just say? I quickly changed the radio station when I realized that my son had sung the words …

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Sex and SexualityUncategorized

No such thing as safe sex?

One of the joys of being part of a blogging network is that you get exposed to articles and such that you’d never have come across in your own sphere. Sometimes they’re enlightening, worldview-expanding, and perspective-altering. Sometimes they’re just tripe. This article by Matt Walsh, on why he’s not going …

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Ages 13-17 (Teen)Sex and Sexuality

The Dating Game: Another look at all of these rules.

Lou has been doing such an awesome job taking down those silly “rules for dating my [insert gendered child-type here]” in the Internet Meme Demolition Derby- go read them if you haven’t yet, because you may want context. And one of the things that’s come up in comments is well …

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Sex and Sexuality

Ask a Sex Educator: What to do about young children’s self-touching?

Welcome to our new feature, Ask a Sex Educator! While I will continue to write standalone articles from time to time, I wanted to create a forum where people could ask parenting and sexuality-related questions, and I’ll answer as many of them as I’m able. Besides my own training and …

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