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BabiesHealthPregnancy & Childbirth

Can We Please Stop Scaring the Crap Out of New Parents?

I breastfed my son behind a curtain in the step down nursery, where babies rested in open cribs for a day to a week of monitoring. It was a huge difference from the intensive care nursery where my sons spent months. From the other side of the curtain, I heard a mother yell at …

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A tale of two homebirth studies

To much fanfare, the Midwives Alliance of North America recently released the results of its five-year MANA Stats project, at last publishing the data collected from almost 17,000 midwife-attended home births in the US during the period 2004-2009. In the UK at the same time, a similar study was being conducted: …

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Pregnancy & Childbirth

A n3wb in the Childbirth Controversy

I’m new to The Childbirth Controversy. Until about two weeks ago, the debate raged around me in dark corners of the internet, where angels fear to tread. I bought shwarmas, read Dresden novels, and rolled my eyes watching Supernatural, only vaguely aware that some people had very strong opinions about …

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Grounded Midwives

“I want a home birth,” Renee said.  “I’ve hired some midwives.” In my life, I have felt my anal sphincter clamp shut faster and harder after only three other phrases: “I don’t really like the original Star Wars movies as much as the prequels”; “I had a precognitive vision that …

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F#!@CK the Birth Experience

A couple of years ago I wrote an essay about how my perception of the “birth experience” had changed from the birth of my first kidlet by c-section to the event of my triumphant VBAC. Spoiler alert: VBAC, SHMEEBAC. That essay eventually became a story that I told onstage — …

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