The Forthcoming Renaissance of Me

The Forthcoming Renaissance of Me

My name is not Mommy. I don’t know why strangers think it’s okay to refer to a woman with a child as “Mom.” Call me “Miss.” I’ll even suffer “Ma’am,” or “hey you.” Even my husband makes the rare and fatal mistake of calling me “Mom” rather than by my awesome name. But if anyone besides my two children calls me “Mom... »

porridge brain

Where is my mind?

I used to be quite clever (maybe not modest, but kind of smart). I had a great memory. My deductive abilities were just dandy. I liked my brain and relied on it. In many ways my intellect defined me but somewhere in the last five years that has failed to be true; my brain has failed me. These days, I can’t remember what my schedule is like from one day to the next (and it’s not like I ... »

NYT OpEd Skewers Jenny McCarthy but Misses the Dish

NYT OpEd Skewers Jenny McCarthy but Misses the Dish

Like most parents with an autistic kid, I spent the month of April shuttling my kid (in my case, an adult kid but a kid none the less) from therapeutic recreation classes to doctor’s appointments to over-planned “social events”, still maintaining a small career and creating time for the rest of the world out of thin air–you know, superhero shit. Occasionally I would remembe... »

Parenting Alone

Parenting Alone

I separated from my first wife in 2005.  The kids were staying with me because she was staying with her boyfriend.  When she threatened to take the kids back to Massachusetts, I contacted my lawyer and the next day had a court order for temporary custody. In the final divorce decree I was awarded permanent custody of both my children.  My son was 11 and my daughter 7.  We lived in Lincoln, NE at t... »

Default Sexism

Default Sexism

Like many of you, perhaps, I was raised in a patriarchy*. What this means, it means Women were barred from many jobs Jobs women did have were often menial, relatively low-paying, or service jobs – waitressing or house-cleaning, nursing, childcare, or – for middle and upperclass women, selling real estate; Women were teachers, but men were principals.  And vice-principals.  And coaches.  And police... »

Bunny Love – The pleasures, and perils, of rabbit ownership

Bunny Love – The pleasures, and perils, of rabbit ownership

In the Northern hemisphere it’s spring, the season of renewal, flowers, plastic eggs, and bunny rabbits. In the United States rabbits are the third most popular pet after cats and dogs. They are also one of the most frequently abandoned. Personally, I adore our bunny and think he’s the best pet we’ve ever had, but there are definitely some things you should consider before you decide that a rabbit... »

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