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EducationGrief and Loss

Trigger Warnings Will Destroy Us ALL! (or not)

Trigger Warning: infant death, graphic description of fetal tissue There is this man who stands a block from the entrance to my workplace. He props up two four-foot signs emblazoned with photographs of bloody, dead, micro-preemie babies, and another with the words “Stop Abortion Now!” I say “babies” despite knowing that these are fetuses, despite knowing …

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LawSpecial Needs

The ADA Turns 25 Today

The Americans with Disabilities Act is 25 years old today.  It has its detractors, but the ADA was hard fought for by politicians and activists, and has made a world of difference. My twins were micro-preemies, and have developmental delays consistent with extreme prematurity that fall into the following categories: motor …

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Media & TechnologySpecial Needs

Fun Apps for Toddlers with Fine Motor Disabilities (Android)

My toddlers are nearing three and get limited screen time (per the AAP). I try to ensure that time is spent interacting with technology in the form of quality learning apps and engaging games. However, their fine motor delays narrow the list of apps they can use successfully significantly. Fine motor delays make it difficult to complete delicate tasks. …


Meet the Pro-Vax Bullies

As National Infant Immunization Week winds down, it seems like a good time to take a good look at the Vaccine Bullies. According to countless anti-vaccine blogs and memes they’re everywhere, pushing a pro vax agenda and stepping all over parents’ freedom. It turns out that pro-vaccine bullies in my town are …

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Enough! Stop Calling me Mommy

The first person to call me “mommy” was a NICU nurse to whom I was bringing vials of breast milk to refrigerate. The hospital’s guidelines tell staff to encourage each mother’s pumping effort, and this nurse said “Wow! Great job mommy!” then turned to my son’s isolette and gushed “Didn’t mommy do well …


No Patience for This: Vaccinating the Smallest Babies

My sons were at thirty-two weeks gestation when the doctor said, “looks like it’s time for their two month vaccinations.” I recoiled in surprise–they were technically two months old, but they were micro preemies. If they had been term babies, they wouldn’t have been born for another two months and they were so small. …

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ActivitiesFamily Field TripsPlayReviews

Field Tripping: Good Times Park, Eagan MN

We took I-94 through Minnesota in the summer, and reached the St. Paul area on a hot, sunny day in desperate need of a place to eat lunch and to give my two year olds a chance to move. Fortunately, we stumbled on Good Times Park, an unsupervised indoor playground in Eagan, MN (just …

IdentityPoliticsRace, Ethnicity & Culture

What a Kid Wears? Not Our Business

My sons started showing style preferences when they were about 18 months old. I started out offering them a choice between two items of clothing. Because they weren’t quite verbal yet, they grabbed the one they want to wear, and flipped out if I insisted on the one they didn’t. Now that they …

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BabiesHealthPregnancy & Childbirth

Can We Please Stop Scaring the Crap Out of New Parents?

I breastfed my son behind a curtain in the step down nursery, where babies rested in open cribs for a day to a week of monitoring. It was a huge difference from the intensive care nursery where my sons spent months. From the other side of the curtain, I heard a mother yell at …

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Ages 2-5BabiesTraditions & Celebrations

Trick or Treating (or not) and Toddlers

I love Halloween, and I love trick-or-treating. In fact, I love it so much I went trick or treating until college, always made my own costumes, and continue to love dressing up for Halloween. Imagine my joy when I had kids with whom I could share this love of Halloween. This is their …