Ages 13-17 (Teen)LGBTQMedia & Technology

On Blocking and Unfriending and Muting and Silencing in General

Recently I unfriended one of my friends on Facebook. Well, I say friend.  We knew each other in grad school.  We ran with the same pack, as one does in grad school.  But when I joined FB, she reached out to me, and I friended her. We had grown to …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)EducationParenting Styles

On Being a Helicopter Parent

Just to get this out of the way – the title is (kind of, almost, maybe sort of, meant to be) ironic. By which I mean, I don’t actually think I’m a helicopter parent.  Who has the time?  I’ve got this job, not to mention I’m trying to write my …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Health

Raising The Anxious Child

I’ll start with a caveat – my kid has not been formally diagnosed as having an anxiety disorder. Neither has her father.  Both of them have dealt with panic attacks, phobias, and anxiety issues all their lives, but – so far at least – these issues have been mild enough …

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AtheismReligionTraditions & Celebrations

Festival of Lights: Doing Holidays When You Don’t Do Religion

As my kid has noted on many occasions, Jewish holidays are often not much fun. On Yom Kippur, for instance, it’s fasting and repenting. I don’t fast.  My kid and Dr. Skull fast, Dr. Skull earnestly and the kid moodily. “Why do I have to do this?” she demands of …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Ages 6-9AtheismReligion

Raising the Atheist Child

I’ve been an atheist since I can remember.  Some people think I’m kidding when I say this, but I can clearly remember my Lutheran kindergarten, when the teacher was going on about Jesus and I was giving all the other kids the side-eye: You’re not really buying this? Dr. Skull, …

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Ages 13-17 (Teen)HouseholdHow ToWork

Make Her a Damn Burrito: Raising the Young Artist

Here at chez delagar, we’re all working artists.  Dr. Skull is a poet and a musician; I write science fiction.  The kid runs a web comic which has (literally) hundreds of dedicated fans and (now) a spin-off comic of its own. This is exactly the sort of life I always …

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Ages 13-17 (Teen)EducationReligion

This Jew Bleeds: Your Kid and Problematic Reading Assignments

I anticipated any number of problems arising from transitioning my kid back to public school – the early mornings, the piles of homework, getting called to the office because she said fuck in class (again). What I didn’t expect was that I might be objecting to what she was reading …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Discipline

Talking To Your Kids About The Police

More than once – and most recently during the fall-out from Adrian Peterson beating his four-year old bloody – I’ve heard some parents claim that they have to beat their kids, because (as they put it) either they beat their kids or the police do. The thesis here, as I …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 13-17 (Teen)Ages 6-9Education

Schooling Your Kid

After four years of home-schooling, we sent the kid back to public school this year. I wouldn’t say it’s been a smooth transition, but it’s been less fraught than it might have been.  She’s almost a month in and – as she puts it – not even a little bit dead …

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Ages 10-12 (Tween)Ages 6-9HouseholdParenting StylesWork

So What about Allowances? Or, Putting My Kid on Salary

Maybe your parents were like mine. When I was coming up, we didn’t get paid for work we did around the house. When I say work, I don’t mean we made our beds and maybe helped Mama dust.  I mean work. From the time I was eight, I was doing …

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