Earlier this week, Mary wrote a post about the inherent fallacy of the argument that “breast milk is free”. I agree with everything that Mary said up to a point. That point being that I don’t think she went far enough and frankly, I think she was too nice to the folks who make this argument.
I am not willing to grant that “free” in this context actually means “not free, but cheaper”. If folks want to promote breast milk as cheaper and often more convenient than formula, I will buy that as an overall generalization. But it still isn’t free and I’m not going to excuse the deliberate nonsensical redefinition of a word to mean something that is actually the opposite of the generally understood meaning. That’s not good faith discussion, that’s misrepresentation.
I will certainly accept the argument that in ideal circumstances, breast milk is a great and fabulous thing for mammalian mothers to feed to mammalian babies. In theory, breast milk is naturally occurring postpartum, premixed, renewable and available based on demand. But we all know that’s just theory. For some mothers and babies, breast milk works great – mom has no production issues, mom is willing and able to not work outside the home for 6 months or more, baby latches well and isn’t a fussy feeder. All of these do occur, no one is denying that.
But breastfeeding is actually an activity distinct from biological production of breast milk. Breast milk may itself be “free” for women without significant supply issues. Breastfeeding, by which I mean the production of breast milk and feeding of same to a child directly or after pumping, on the other hand, can be low cost, but isn’t no cost for the vast majority of women, at least in the US where many women have at most 12 weeks of maternity leave of which any or all may be unpaid. There are actual and opportunity costs associated with breastfeeding and denying that is buying into the patriarchial system that wants us to devalue the worth of women’s time and physical effort.
Now, before anyone gets the wrong idea, I am not suggesting that breastfeeding is a bad thing, or that it is economically better to use formula. The set actual cost to formula use is typically going to be significantly higher than breast milk. However, when balanced by the opportunity cost of breastfeeding, for some women exclusive formula feeding or combo feeding will be more economically feasible.
Which brings me to another, slightly tangential point, but it’s something that drives me batty as a two-time combo feeder – breast milk and formula are not mutually exclusive feeding options. Particularly if a child is going to be bottle fed breast milk while mom is at work or school or otherwise not able to be present, and absent serious maternal supply concerns, supplementing with formula is possible.
Certainly, in my case, with both of my children, using a combination of breast milk and formula meant that I could not only breastfeed longer, but at less cost to my well-being, which, to me and my family, is a pretty important investment.