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I Don’t Need Your Birth Feminism

Mariah Sixkiller’s Why I Am a Birth Feminist is one of the most privileged and myopic pieces of drivel I have ever read. Why exactly is she a birth feminist? Is it because she wants to see improved birth outcomes for women in third world countries? No. Is it because she wants to fight …

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Can We Please Stop Scaring the Crap Out of New Parents?

I breastfed my son behind a curtain in the step down nursery, where babies rested in open cribs for a day to a week of monitoring. It was a huge difference from the intensive care nursery where my sons spent months. From the other side of the curtain, I heard a mother yell at …

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Weekend Reads: Vitamin D and Childbirth, One Star Reviews of National Parks, etc

Well hello!  The weekend is here, and I’m excited.  It’s been a “drop your kid off at daycare only to discover you never put shoes on him” kind of week.  Anyway, what are you in the mood for today?   If you’re looking for….a way to make childbirth less painful: …

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Not Buried Twice: Why the Fight for Birth Safety Matters

The backlash to the so-called “Mommy Wars” has been, in some ways, as misguided as the “wars” themselves. There’s a mentality that anything a parent (but usually a mother) does is just as valid, right, or safe as the alternative. While that holds true for some things, like breastfeeding vs. …

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Maybe I’ll Just Shut Up

My family doesn’t talk about Tom to other parents much. Well, that’s not exactly true. We are all pretty much nuts about him and we talk about him as often as we can. My iPhone photos are the modern-day equivalent of the cascade of baby pictures that would come tumbling …

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A tale of two homebirth studies

To much fanfare, the Midwives Alliance of North America recently released the results of its five-year MANA Stats project, at last publishing the data collected from almost 17,000 midwife-attended home births in the US during the period 2004-2009. In the UK at the same time, a similar study was being conducted: …

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The NICU, Part 1: Happily Ever After. . .Almost

(Trigger Warning: infant loss, NICU trauma) A year ago today, our happy ending began. After 122 days in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, my son came home, joining his brother who had arrived 10 days previously.  Born at just under 1 ½ lbs each, the twins weighed 5 lbs when …

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On the Recent Homebirth Statistics Fracas

If you’re a reader of Grounded Parents or the Skeptical OB, you’ve likely seen the recent guest post by Jamie Bernstein, Dr. Amy’s responses, and the hundreds of heated, emotional, intelligent, not-so-intelligent, and everything in between comments on both blogs. Early on, the debate hinged mostly on the interpretation of …


Having a Baby Made Me More Pro-Choice

I have always been pro-choice. I used to be the kind of pro-choice woman that believed no one in the world has the right to tell a woman what she has to do with her body. Having sex never meant giving up ownership of your body, not to a partner, …

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What pregnant women won’t tell you. Ever.

In celebration of the anniversary of Roe v Wade, the team at Grounded Parents have decided to dedicate an entire day to talking about what reproductive freedom means to us. And, as a reminder of what it takes to carry a pregnancy to full term, I’m cross-posting an old article …