BabiesHealthSpecial Needs

When Diagnoses Differ

My former micro-preemie twins get regular occupational therapy, physical therapy and an early childhood educator courtesy of the state’s early intervention program. But, even with the therapy, M is far behind developmentally, and exhibits a host of behaviors that his brother does not: licking things, staring at lights, rocking, hitting his head against the wall, etc. …

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Adult ChildrenSpecial Needs

My Twins Turned 20. Don’t I Get a Sticker for This Shit?!

I celebrated my twins’ 20th birthday last week, or as I call it, the 20th anniversary of My Motherhood. I graciously took a moment on my anniversary to celebrate the little turds and I took sometime to pat myself on the back, too. I’ve managed to keep the twins (and …

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Parenting FailsSpecial Needs

Those Damn Horns: Learning to Parent for Special Needs

M, one of my 18 month old twins, loves big vehicles: buses are a favorite, but construction equipment, pick up trucks, and the USPS guy will do just fine. So, I was excited to surprise him with our community’s spring Touch a Truck event even though the twins have a few challenges left over from their …

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ActivismSpecial NeedsUncategorized

NYT OpEd Skewers Jenny McCarthy but Misses the Dish

Like most parents with an autistic kid, I spent the month of April shuttling my kid (in my case, an adult kid but a kid none the less) from therapeutic recreation classes to doctor’s appointments to over-planned “social events”, still maintaining a small career and creating time for the rest …

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Special Needs

How Bullies Gave My Son A Better Education

My son, AJ, was in second grade when he had his first encounter with bullies. As I’ve mentioned before, here and here, AJ was diagnosed with special needs early in life. We were lucky that he began receiving early intervention services even before he left the hospital because he was born …

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BabiesHealthSpecial Needs

Starting Early: the IDEA Act and Young Children

Several times a week, adults come to my house and play with my 16 month old twins. It’s pretty goofy. The adults balance blocks on their heads, smack their lips, and encourage the boys to grasp at toys beyond their reach. It looks like play, but it’s really therapy provided …

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PseudoscienceSpecial Needs

UPDATED: When Corporations Attempt “Autism Awareness”

It’s the weekend. You want to go out to eat. You don’t want takeout. You want to sit down and feel fancy, dammit, even if your kids are climbing on you with food smeared on their faces. Maybe you’re thinking about going to Chili’s. If you’re a supporter of science …

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BabiesHealthPregnancy & ChildbirthSpecial Needs

The NICU, Part 1: Happily Ever After. . .Almost

(Trigger Warning: infant loss, NICU trauma) A year ago today, our happy ending began. After 122 days in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, my son came home, joining his brother who had arrived 10 days previously.  Born at just under 1 ½ lbs each, the twins weighed 5 lbs when …

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Special Needs

Socialization Issues In Children With Autism Spectrum Disorder

I have written here before about my son, AJ, and how at 3 years old he was diagnosed with PDD, later refined to Autism Spectrum Disorder, or ASD. Like any boy of that age, he loved to play with the other boys in the neighborhood. Most of these kids were a …

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Special Needs

He’s So “Special”

We always knew AJ (not his real name) was a little different.  He was born 8 weeks early so we started our lives as parents with a son who wasn’t quite the same as other babies. When he was a little older and would play with his toys, we knew …

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